Thank you Eric, Sam, Lynn L, and many others for tuning into BigTentUSA’s live video with Rachel Janfaza and Jessica Tarlov!
In BigTentUSA’s October 13 livestream, the duo unpacked how healthy disagreement can become a practical skill anyone can build.
Drawing from her book, “I Disagree: Winning Arguments Without Losing Friends”, Tarlov urged viewers to lead with a “soft start,” use humor to lower defenses, and listen more than speak. Her message: acknowledge another perspective without accepting it, and aim to open minds rather than force a conversion. Strong arguments require preparation: pair personal stories with reliable data, follow polling trends, and resist cherry-picking findings that confirm your beliefs.
The conversation also explored engaging younger voters, prioritizing results over party labels, and the personal risks of speaking out in today’s political climate. Throughout, Tarlov emphasized kindness, conviction, and knowing when to step back.
Take these tools to your next difficult conversation: stay curious, speak with substance, and be sharp without ever being cruel.
